Dear Birth Mother,
It has been ages since I have written, for that I am sorry. I have thought often of you and there are things I wanted to share that I haven’t made the time for. Tonight I have to share an experience with you that won’t leave me until I do.
I just returned from a visit to the city where I grew up. It was a quick weekend trip and full of lots of fun with my in-laws. We spent the morning on Saturday shopping. When we walked into the first store, right before me I saw a friend that I haven’t seen since childhood. We looked at each other in, what I imagine, looked a lot like shock and then rushed forward to embrace each other. We both started to cry right there in the middle of the store, completely and totally unapologetically cry. It was a moment of such joy for me that it spilled down my cheeks.
This friend and I were both so blessed to grow up together with a group of solid friends. We all lived in the same neighborhood (until she moved away when we were ten). Our parents had all lived there for quite a while. There was a nuclear group of us that just bonded and were regularly found together. We are all still friends to this day. Because of the way life works I had lost touch with this particular friend until a few years ago (thank you social media for reuniting us). When we saw each other in that moment it was as if no time had passed since we had seen each other (minus the tears). We talked about important things for the few minutes we had together, we laughed, and we embraced. We will forever be friends largely in part because of our amazing childhood.
We didn’t have the perfect childhood, but we were so blessed to have a place to grow up where we could have stable friends and a safe neighborhood. We played together, went to school together, and were welcome in each other’s homes. For this reason I thank you. You allowed me to be raised by parents who provided me with the kind of childhood where I could make forever friends. Not just one, but several. Friends that will last my entire life and beyond.